2 posts categorized "Separation"

Advice for post-divorce co-parenting

January 08, 2013

One of our founding mamas went through a divorce early in the history of this site, and it was overwhelming; her experience took her, largely, off the blog. I've personally watched many of my friends go through divorce and it seems so, so hard -- I've even taken to exploring my thoughts about it in fiction. Co-parenting while divorced, for me, sounds even harder than co-parenting while in a difficult marriage. Another mother asks:

Does anyone have good resources or personal experience to share with a newly divorced mama? My ex and I are fairly amicable, but I find myself really struggling with how this new world order works for the kids as they split time between us. Everything I've found to read about divorce addresses the nightmare scenarios when parents say nasty things about each other to the kids or manipulate them to win affection. That's not us at all. Those stories make me very thankful for how our divorce has gone. And still, I wonder if it ever feels normal to live in 2 different houses, have 2 different dogs, 2 sets of neighborhood friends... having grown up with 2 parents and a super stable home life, I feel a little heartbroken when I think about it too long. I know my kids don't necessarily think about it the way I do, but it would help me to have exposure to success stories of growing up equally with 2 parents in two houses.

Do you have any advice or stories to share?

Separation Anxiety: when Mama/Papa feels it

April 18, 2012

An urbanMama recently emailed:

I am curious about people's thoughts on time spent away from children.  How much is essential, at what point do you feel guilty, etc?  At what age do you think your kid needs a break from you as much as you need a break from him or her?  Do parents sometimes foster separation anxiety in children?

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