January 10, 2012
Today, a friend told me, "It's twin Tuesday." Almost every Tuesday, he and his wife go and spend time with the twins who were born of his sperm, which he donated to a friend so that she and her partner could be mamas. They never imagined to be this close to one another, to be spending so much time together and to even be taking family vacations together, but they are. And, it feels right.
We have other friends, also a two-mama family, each of whom bore a child. Each of the donors remained active in the kids' lives. "Dad-nors" as they were called. Again, the extended family unit could not feel more right, with dad-nors joining in on birthday celebrations every year.
Good friends recently became two papas to a 7-month old boy, and they celebrate the day of each month that represents the day that they "got" (adopted) him. Having had wanted to be papas for a while, they couldn't be happier that it is all smoothly falling into place.
Our families are not restricted to a mama, a papa, and child(ren). We are so much more than that, with all sorts of definitions that are encompassed by "papa" and "mama", with more than one active mama or papa in any given life. I would love to hear you share your own experiences with families of all configurations, and celebrate the diversity of our urbanMamas families.