February 08, 2014
Granted, I'm a little biased. I like to think that my boy isn't always the culprit, the instigator, the initiator, the bad guy. I know he's no angel, but I don't think he's always the bad guy, like his friend's mom likes to make out.
My boy's BFF is a like-aged boy. They have similar interests (cars, planes, trains). Sometimes they like to play "fight" or "karate". They punch in the air near each other, play fighting. They wrestle to the ground. Sometimes, someone gets hurt.
My boy's BFF is sensitive, and my boy errs on the less sensitive side. Any scratch can cause tears for a sensitive child. When there is conflict, my boy's BFF is quick to raise the issue: "why did you push me?" My boy, now hyper-sensitive about being accused, will often run from the scene, guilty-like behavior.
Once home, I will ask: "What happened today? Why did you push?" My boy will say: "Because he hit me first."
The scenario has played out several occassions in the same way: My boy, wrongfully accused, runs from the scene. His BFF, potentially the instigator, cries out and points a finger.
I'm not one to intervene, but - at some point - I would like to set the story straight with the BFF's mama, who believes her son is always the victim.