May 06, 2014
When I rang the doorbell at my son's friend's house, I immediately heard his screeching from the other side of the door. The 2-hour playdate was culminating in fits of "I don't want to go!" and "Can't I just borrow this toy?", clutching at a light saber. Apologetically, I said to the friend's mom: "He has trouble with transitions."
Again it happens when this same friend came to our house for a playdate. The mom rang our doorbell, and my boy's response was identical: "No, I want him to stay forever!" and "I want to go home with him."
I apologized through the squirming and I talked through the screaming: "Thank you for coming over!" The other mom understood. And, most other parents do. My child is not the only one who has "trouble with transitions". Mostly, it's leaving friends' homes or having to watch a friend leave. Often times, to ease the transition, there is some compromise bribe: "We have to leave now, but you can have extra lights-on time in bed tonight" or "He has to leave now, but you can have a little treat." Transitions like leaving school are never very bad, although drop-offs tend to be clingy and sensitive.
Does your child have "trouble with transitions" and what does that mean for you? What are the ways you deal with the transitions? I don't feel wonderful about offering the "compromises" but maybe you have other great ideas for me?