Mother's Day Reflections - 2017
Our traditions for Mother's Day continue: breakfast in bed followed by a family hike. Toward the end of our hike yesterday afternoon, I realized that I was starting to feel antsy, the Sunday blues starting to set in: Do we have enough groceries for the week? Do we have clean clothes? What are the schedule commitments and any special arrangements that need to be made? The list goes on. One friend commented on Saturday that she had done all the grocery shopping and laundry already so she didn't need to worry on Sunday.
Why can't we have a Mother's Day on a Saturday? I feel like I could relax a bit more if I didn't have to start stressing about the next week on that holiday. I think 25% of my day on Mother's Day is eroded by those Sunday worries that start to eat into my Sunday afternoon.
I'm missing the point? Should I put the responsibility of the chores onto my kids and partner on Mother's Day Sundays and let myself go worry-free? Well: been there, done that. I've done it a few different ways: refuse chores for the few days before and after Mother's Day to see if they will get done for me, how and when I like them done. This works fine: the kids fold laundry and clean the sink, and it is what it is. But, let's face it: no one does it quite like Mom. Also: I mind it so much less if I have the time to get the chores done and if I get oodles of love for it!
Last night, in the last moments of Mother's Day 2017, I did the dishes and scrubbed the sink. My heart felt light. I am happy doing the things that I do for my family, it's what I do. I can't help it. And, to me, the contribution they bring to my day is acknowledgement and full appreciation for all it is that I do. Says one of my kids: "thank you so much for making us food, doing our laundry, cleaning our bathrooms and more." (not that I do it ALL, mind you. These kids DO have chores!) and says another "There's so much that you do for our family that goes unnoticed.... " and "P.S. We didn't pick out a gift for you, but if you want me to do a really gross chore, I'll do it!"
In the meantime, I think I might just switch our family's celebration to a Mama's Day Eve to offset a bit of that Sunday evening stress that usually accompanies the event!