When we fight: Kids say the darndest things
This morning, my boy woke up on the wrong side of the bed. He didn't want breakfast, he didn't want to get dressed, he didn't want to go to school. He was sour, through and through. He was wearing on his dad's patience with every "no" and refusal. Negativity rose further to physical manifestations. Our boy threw a dish rag at his dad. And, to climax: "I don't want you to be my dad anymore!"
I wanted to give our boy & his dad some time to cool off. I said to our boy, "That isn't loving or kind," which is sometimes my auto-response to negative comments or behavior.
Kids say the darndest things, even things like "I hate you, Mama". Many times, these statements are made in the heat of a moment; they are things they might not really mean.
Before long, and before we were heading to school, our boy went to his dad to apologize. "I'm sorry, Dad". And, his dad to him, "I'm sorry, too. I was just frustrated."
No doubt these moments happen in your household, too. How do you diffuse the situation and close the loop? How do you make amends?