Mamas: Finding your BFF
Moving to Portland was scary and exciting all at the same time. We heard rave reviews of the city, we were thrilled at the opportunity to try it out for a spin. We arrived, 7 months pregnant with 3-year old in tow, and we knew just one or two other people, my partners' colleagues.
The rest is almost history. That was over ten years ago, and I met my mama BFF within months of moving to Portland. When we first moved, I was eager to hit the mama-dating circuit, to meet other like-minded families, to share fun & adventures with new-found friends. We gave birth to urbanMamas.com where countless other mamas & papas have made connections - found life-long friends, care providers, jobs, support through transitions like moves or divorce - all through the urbanMamas community. Needless to say, I found my mama BFF plus so many other dear, close friends.
And, then: we moved.
Two years after the move, I have to say: I am still seeking a new partner-in-crime, a new best mama pal. I am still seeking that special someone(s) who will make me laugh so hard I pee, who will talk to me about peeing when I run and how to deal with it, who will talk through career issues like working part-time or trailblazing mamahood in the workplace.
Maybe when you find your mama BFF, it's one and only. Maybe it just takes a bit more time. Maybe it requires being even more outgoing than ever.
When you move to a new place or start at a new school and start afresh: how do you make friends? What are you looking for? Candlelit dinners & walks on the beach? Similar-aged kids, similar lifestyles, similar family structures or values? What have you found was the absolute thing that draws you to another mama?