Parent Statements: euphemisms of judgement?
"My child doesn't get much media", said the mama to me as we watched our kids sit in front of a video, "so he is totally sucked in when he gets it." I said: "Oh." I feel like I have heard myself say the same thing of my own child.
Later that weekend, after allowing my child to have a juice box offered by another child, I said, "My child doesn't usually drink juice," noting my child's high-energy response to the drink, "so he is totally hyper when he drinks it."
As I hear myself saying the above, I hear my unspoken thoughts "your child shouldn't drink juice". Then, I hear the other mama's unspoken thoughts (or what I assume they could be): "your child shouldn't watch videos". I had a sinky feeling in my stomach. I am juding. I am being judged. But, it doesn't sound like it, does it?
No doubt you have heard similar statements before. Maybe you have even made them. Does it feel judgy only if one is already sensitive to the issue? Or, this might go into the category of "over-thinking" things.