Don't steal my thunder: things that only MAMA should do
My children are fortunate frequent recipients of little knick and knacks from their family members - maybe a package of socks, maybe a bundle of those silly bandz (which are so "out", by the way), maybe a new kids' magazine, maybe a bag of their favorite dried fruit, maybe a new notebook, maybe a bunch of stickers.
In a recent care package, they received a stack of new camisoles and frilly underthings, among the items for my older [11.5yo] daughter were a couple of bras, full out cupped with double-hook closures in the back. A couple of years back, when my daughter was bra curious, we picked out a couple of short cami numbers, pullover type of sports-bra looking things. "Trainers" perhaps one would call them, but I really thought of them as half-camisoles. (wondering where to get your daughter fit for a bra? here are a few suggestions.)
Anyway, I have to admit: when I saw that someone else had given my first-born, my eldest daughter, her "first bra", I felt miffed. I mean, should *I* be the one to go pick one out for her, buy it for her? Isn't it a right of passage, stepping from childhood to teenagehood, from girlhood to womanhood? Or a small step?
I am reminded of an episode of Parenthood, when a boy's mom's new boyfriend offers to take the boy to a football game. His dad, however, wasn't keen on the idea of someone else - especially his ex-girlfriend's new boyfriend - taking his son to his first football game.
There are "firsts" and there are special moments that ought to be shared between parent and child, or perhaps I am just nostalgic about it. Among the things I feel that only mama should do: buy a girl her first bra, have a first alcoholic beverage with their child (whether it be at 21 or before), give baby his first bath, teach the tyke how to ride a bike, take him for her first hair cut ... what other "firsts"? I am sure there are more. What are yours? Is it a big deal or no?