The Novelty Parent: It's not me
Many evenings, while I get dinner onto the table, my partner is relagated to toddler- and child-management. I bustle around in that very stressful pre-dinner hour, and I often hear squealing and giggles coming from the other room, surely the result of my husband nuzzling his head into the toddler's tummy. More squeals come from the other kids, playing around with their dad little brother.
Not every household has two parents, but - for those that do - each of the two parents often settle into roles. For me, thanks to my efficiency and love for edible arts, it is my role to mange the kitchen. My partner, then, has the role of managing things outside the kitchen - in this case - the kids. In other cases, I often still take on the role of primary caretaker, tending to the basic needs of my family such as laundering, kitchen inventory, handling the calendar. It wears on me, while many times I find my partner takes on the role of playmate, sports coach, tickle monster. To be honest: I get jealous. To be honest: I sometimes get bitter.
To be sure, I can challenge the roles, start a mission to lowly change them. But, who has the time? Right now, I do feel that efficiency trumps, and I am indeed the Mistress of Multitasking. My skill set is better suited for the caretaking and nurturing tasks. I just want to know I'm not alone. Does it happen in your house too? Is there a primary caretaker, and does the secondary caretaker get all the fun jobs? And, dare I ask: have you managed to swap roles here and there? Has it worked well?