I yelled at them. Now what?
If I told you that I *felt* like yelling at them, I am sure I would be overwhelmed with suggestions that I go for a walk (how, when there's no other adult in the house?) or take a yoga class (with what money?) or go for a run (see item #1) or soak in a bubble bath (at 5pm when I need to get dinner on the table?) or find a friend (see item #1) or get a pedicure (is that a good use of my $20?).... There are lots of suggestions, I know. But, you know what? Sometimes, none of those suggestions work, for one reason or another. Sometimes, it's just too late. Sometimes, I end up really friggin strung out. And, I yell at them.
Yup. I yell. I scream, actually. I am certain the neighbors hear us. And, sometimes, they scream back at me. And, me at them. And so on and so forth.
So, now what? I've yelled at them for not helping me when I need help, scolded at them for not listening to me when all they're "supposed" to do is listen, made them cry while I cry myself. It is this awful heap of a household from 6 to 7pm when children are dirty, hungry, tear-stained. While I regret all the yelling, I can't say that I could actually help it. What do I do: take a breather, come back, and pretend nothing's happened? Say "I'm sorry" and move on? Tell them, "well, next time you should just listen to me!"? Now that I've yelled at them, now what?