Three year-old talk-back: Phase or Friends?
When our little ones pick up a new trait, sometimes it's hard to know whether it's a phase, his/her personality, or the influence of peers. An urbanMama recently emailed:
I really need some advice. My 3 1/2 year old daughter recently started a new preschool and she's suddenly exposed to a lot of new kids, many of them older. Since she started, she has been incessantly talking back. I don't know what else to call it. If I ask her to put her shoes away, it's "No! You put YOUR shoes away!", she screams, tries to order us around, and has even tried calling us names like "stupid". I realize she is trying things on for size, and we've had many conversations with her about why this is not a respectful way to talk to us (we don't talk that way to her, it is rude, it hurts feelings, etc). She seems to like her school, so I don't know if this is a normal 3 year old development or if we've got a real tyrant on our hands. I'm embarrased to say I don't know how to deal with it and it is so frustrating to be bossed around by my child. Does anyone have any advice on how to handle this kind of behavior?