I'm gonna be a mama! Yay? The surprise of mamahood
A friend recently found out that she's going to be a mama! Yay? Or nay? She had to admit she was feeling a little lukewarm about it, it being unplanned and all. But, when I thought about it, can we really plan these things?
We found out about our first baby when my then-boyfriend and I were in graduate school. We were poor, working full-time, going to school at night. We were eating a little and drinking a lot. We will ill-prepared to start a family, but we did. It turned our worlds upside down, but we now couldn't imagine a life any different. A couple of years after we had our first child, we decided to have another. We were lucky to find out we were pregnant, after just a couple of fun months of "trying".
It made me wonder: how many of us planned when we would first become mamas? How many of us took on the surprise? Or, how many of us woke up to the surprise, but found that we really could not make good mamas at that particular point in time? If you were able to plan, what made *that* time more ideal than others?