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How to transition: from co-sleeper to crib?

Each time our first daughter transitioned further from us, it was a difficult change, for mama, papa, and for babe.  First, it was from our bed to her crib in the corner of the room.  Then, it was from the corner of our room to her own room across the apartment.  It felt like she was taking leaps and bounds in her journey away from us.

An urbanMama seeks some advice and your perspective on the transitioning:

I'm a 27 year old married mama to an 8 month old breast feeding, sweet, smart, active, adorable boy.  My husband and I have been co sleeping with our little man, but have reached a point where he is so active, even in his sleep, that we think all of us would sleep better if he had his own space.  He has a crib, but doesn't even nap in it at this point.

I would like to transition him to his crib to sleep for (at least most of) the night and for naps.  I would say that we are semi attachment.  I don't want to traumatize him, but I also don't want to bother him in an attempt to soothe him.  We are both frustrated during the "soothing" process which consists of breast feeding, rocking, bouncing, shushing, and/or rocking.  I feel like he's outgrowing some or all of these.

Any mamas have advice for transitioning from co sleeping to crib?

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This was such a hard thing in our family. Our oldest son never slept in his crib. I nursed him til he was almost 3. We bought him this beautiful crib and he might have napped in it from time to time but that was about it. He was one of those babies that would not cry himself to sleep. Both his father and I didn't have the heart to do that anyway. I still remember his pediatrician in Seattle telling us that we had to resolve the sleep thing and have him sleep in his own bed. We never got any sleep and I was always exhausted but he was my first baby so . . . In retrospect I guess following my instincts was the right thing to do because at age 3 our son received an autism diagnosis. When our second son was born we had him sleep between us again because I was nursing and it just was easier for everyone. We did that the whole time he was a baby and then I just knew when he was ready. I can't remember how old he was. I just knew as a family we needed to get more sleep. He shared a room with his brother and was right next door to our room so I could check on him frequently. He did cry sometimes and that was hard and I hope to this day that I did the right thing. Anyway I guess I would just say as Mom, go with your gut. Nobody knows your child as well as you.

We also had a crib that never got used. In fact we gave up on it after a few months. When my daughter got to be a restless, kicking, sleep-in-a-horizontal-position baby we kicked her out - but only to her own mattress placed right next to ours. At first it was just her crib mattress but we soon moved her to a twin. We put her mattress in a corner and shoved ours against it so she couldn't fall off or roll anywhere weird.

It has worked great for us. She is right there if she needs us, and I can check on her merely by putting my hand out. But she is on her own surface so our shifting weight does not disturb her.

It did take some time for her to adjust. Often she'd fall asleep there but wake up in the middle of the night and want to come into our bed. I allowed that for a few weeks and then insisted on putting her back to sleep on her own mattress. She soon learned that we were right there, weren't going anywhere, and started sleeping through the night.

If you have the space you might want to consider this "family bed" arrangement.

Good luck! Its amazing what a full night of sleep will do for you!

mimic your bed as much as possible in his crib. for our youngest, this meant that she used one of our pillows (i think smelling our scent really helped) and tucking a downy blanket around her (which mimicked our comforter). we also turned a box fan on and that helped with soothing her. good luck! it can be a rough road, but hopefully you guys will figure out what works for you.

I read somewhere that it takes about a week to build a new sleep association, so it's realistic that it may take several nights for your son to adjust to the new environment. But he will. Our daughter definitely slept better at this age when she had her own bed (vs. nights when she woke up and came into bed with us, and then none of us slept well or long). Good luck!

These transition moments are so tough! I promise you one thing -- you will look back at this challenge and laugh a little bit about how hard it was to figure out. You and your son will be on to the next big change before you know it! Now, about sleeping in a crib -- give it a try. Just see how he does if you put him down, either soothed to sleep, or very sleepy, or wide awake. He will most likely surprise you in one way or another.

My daughter always slept much better on her own. It was hard to realize this for our cuddly, attached family, but once she was in her crib we were all so much more rested and happy. We just made the leap one night (I think because she was rolling over and had really outgrown the co-sleeper), at first putting her in the crib asleep, then awhile later we switched to putting her down very sleepy, then later we bit the bullet and put her down awake and she shocked us by talking to herself until she fell asleep on her own! Then wakings got farther and farther apart as she got older (except for the big developmental spurts like standing and then walking, when she woke more often), so soothing her back down became less of an issue. We varied with the soothings, depending on our read of the situation, and figuring out what were "hey, i want to play!" fusses, and real cries of fear.

All this to say, just pick a night when you don't have something huge going on the next morning, and give the crib a try. You can do it! And you'll make the right decision for your family in the end.

I'd love to hear what happens along the way, if you want to report back!

What great timing for this article. Our daughter is 10 months, cosleeps with us, and is very restless. I love the idea of another mattress right next to the adult bed!

Oh, this one is hard. I loved sleeping with my babes and hated it when it was clear that something new was in order. With my first, we had our mattress on the floor and put his crib mattress on the floor next to ours, with a little rail so he wouldn't roll off. I had a real problem making the decision to put the mattress on the floor, but once I did I never looked back. Totally worth it. About the same time, I night weaned, which was tough. We went through a couple of nights of crying, but at least we were in bed together crying and he wasn't alone. After that, he could just be patted or sung back to sleep next to us. We slowly moved his mattress away from our bed, but in the same room, until he was ready to move into his own room. He had never slept in the crib, so the only transition was out of our room, as opposed to a whole new way to go to bed. With my second, we had a toddler bed and just pushed that up against ours. He slept in there for a very long time. And then one day we got bunkbeds and he moved happily into the bedroom with his brother.

My feeling is, if he's just ready for his own sleeping space it doesn't necessarily have to be in a different room, and it doesn't have to be a crib. Given that we skipped it and our boys always went to bed in a bed they could just crawl/get out of, we never had to battle the "stay in bed" issue that folks have when they move out of the crib. I will say our bedroom was childproof and we kept a gate on the door, just in case he woke up and we didn't hear him, which never really happened.

We haven't reached this point yet since our baby is younger, but I've thought about it. Our baby sleeps about half-time in a cosleeper bassinet attached to our bed and the other half in our bed.

I assume a cosleeper bassinet isn't a good option to start with 8-month old because of how mobile they are becoming at that age. They could just climb out since it's shorter than a crib.

Has anyone had problems with the mattress on the floor option? I like the idea of keeping my baby with me when she's older, but I fear that she'll wake and toddle off in the middle of the night.

Well - I'm almost reluctant to post here because I was one of those non-cosleeping moms that put our daughter in her own crib in her own room at 10 weeks old and it truly it was harder for me than for her. I did the "soothing" thing for about a week and then let her cry it out for about a week (it about killed me to listen to her I'll freely admit) and honestly that was it. I was inspired by a neighbour who could not get her nine-year old son out of the family bed. I think it was the single best decision we made as parents - please note I'm not advocating it for everyone - it just worked for us. We've never had many bed time issues and now my daughter is school age. She goes to bed at the same time every night and reads or plays as long as she wants. Usually after about ten minutes, she asks us to tuck her in for the night and she's out like a light. No drama, fuss or muss (don't get me wrong - the drama is elsewhere just not about sleep!) and my husband and I enjoy the rest of the night to catch up with each other. I don't believe that she suffers any longlasting trauma nor is she any less attached or less loved for not co-sleeping with us.
I really HURT to see some of the hours-long nightly bed-time contortions and years of sleep deprivation that I see some of my fellow parent friends to through in the service of the family bed. I'm very, very supportive of choices but this one has me a little stumped. I honestly just don't understand why folks choose to make their parenting lives ten times more stressful than necessary? And to what end? Do any of us as adults harbor resentments about not co-sleeping with our parents as young children? In fact, I think that some of us would frankly shudder at the notion of it!
Maybe this is a topic for a whole other thread and ok, feel free to flame me now :-) but I just think that parenting is hard enough without a decade of poor sleep and a compromised relationship (through lack of privacy) with a significant other to add to the mix.

I don't have advice on moving to the crib because we never ended up using the crib. I suspect you might find some answers in Elizabeth Pantley's no-cry sleep solution, which is probably perfect for semi-attachment parenting. However, as they enter that learning-to-crawl learning-to-stand learning-to-walk part of childhood they may be keeping you up no matter where they are - all the new activity just makes it too exciting for some of them to sleep.

Regarding anonmom's observation of "hours-long nightly bed-time contortions and years of sleep deprivation," I'm not sure that's something the majority of co-sleepers experience in any greater proportion than crib users. It's not our experience. Our experience is that once our co-sleeping child night weaned at about 21-22 months, she started sleeping solidly through the night. (Before then, she was waking once a night to eat) The only time we can't count on that is when she has been breaking new teeth or is congested and coughing. To be honest, my pets and my man wake me up more than she does.

On the other hand, most of our friends with children the same age have done some form of sleep training. A few say they've had to repeat the sleep training process several times, as their situations change and nighttime waking/crying again becomes part of their life. I suspect the reality of a parents' nighttime experience is a combination of the child's personality, age, the excitement of that particular day/week/month and even eating habits.

Anonmom also asks why: "I'm very, very supportive of choices but this one has me a little stumped. I honestly just don't understand why folks choose to make their parenting lives ten times more stressful than necessary." In our case, we were influenced by the research discussed in "The Science of Parenting," which looks into how stress affects brain development and recommends at least sharing a room with young children.

Regarding resentment of parents, as a child, I slept first in a room with my parents and then in a room with my sister. Putting young children alone in a room to sleep seems like a pretty modern invention.



I will second the use of the No Cry Sleep Solution as a guide book - not just for co-sleeping families but for anyone dealing with baby bedtime challenges.

Our transition has been gradual - bed, to co-sleeper, to bed in the same room, to separate bedroom. Gael is still in the same room as us. However we did transition him to a separate bed sooner than Mila for many of the same reasons you are experiencing.

If you are nursing your little one to sleep, one thing that may help with the transition to another bed is taking you - Mama - out of the bedtime equation. Nurse your little one and then had him over to Papa to put him down (out of sight from you, ideally).

With regard to comment by "anonmom", I think that "anon" does a good job of addressing the presumptions about co-sleeping contained in that comment.

For what it's worth, I don't believe that co-sleeping has increased my stress-level; nor have I seen any research indicating that it is a stress-inducer - most studies indicate quite the opposite effect.

We are dealing with this right now too with our eleven month old little boy. I have the added urgency of having just found out I'm pregnant again (happily) and we want to move him to sleep longer by himself, too. So far, we've put a futon mattress in his room on the floor (right next the crib he's never slept in) and I nurse him to sleep and go back to our own bed. I get up a few (1-3 times) a night to nurse him back to sleep (though sometimes I fall asleep with him on the futon). We are gradually trying to get him to have longer stretches of sleep--either by letting him cry a little back to sleep (so far I can only manage about 4 minutes before I just would rather go in) and having his dad go and comfort him back to sleep. It's been really gradual--some nights are better than others. But, so far, it's working for us. I have to think (hope?) that he will sleep longer stretches. I have been surprised, too, that he has gotten himself back to sleep sometimes, with just a little bit of fussing (not full on crying), and I'm starting to be able to tell what kind of 'wake up' it is by the cry, which makes it easier.

I posted the original question and have since done some "work" toward getting him to sleep in his crib.
Some background:
Our arrangement was quite nice for a long time. I would nurse him to sleep at around 7 or 8 and then leave him to sleep, if he woke up I would just nurse him for a few minutes and he fell to sleep.
At this point that is not enough for him, he is crying and rejecting the breast, pushing away from me and then pulling into me almost at the same time. I truly feel like he would sleep better on his own, I think he is TRYING to soothe himself but my presence is making it impossible.
So, my "plan" is to get him used to the crib via naps- I am not comfortable just leaving him in an unfamiliar place to cry, cold and alone.
Phase one: morning nap (which is the easiest for us/him) in the crib. He gets soothed to sleep and placed in the crib. Next week I'll add the afternoon nap and the following week I will start placing him in his crib (which is in our room) asleep for the night. I anticipate, however, that he won't stay asleep when I put him down at night in the crib. I foresee having to pick him up and rock him back to sleep many many times before he stays asleep.
The following week I want to put a rough time limit on the soothing. I think ten or 15 minutes should be good. So that he is put in the crib very sleepy, sleeping, or even awake if that's how it turns out. I anticipate some crying.
That, combined with a routine (not schedule): wake between 6 and 7, breakfast/playtime, nap between 9 and 10, lunch/playtime/errands, nap between 12 and 1, playtime/dinner/bath, bed at 7 or 8.
I am hopeful. I must be hopeful. Thanks for the advice, keep it coming if you can!!! :)

Today is day 3 of the morning nap in crib and it's going pretty well. It takes a few tries to get him down without crying. I must remember to have more patience than him, afterall, I am the parent.

I just wanted to say thank you to all the mamas out there who are sharing their experiences and advice!

I'm almost 35 weeks pregnant and have yet to get a crib or co-sleeper bassinet. I've been undecided about which method to pursue after reading a short article put out by Legacy's Parent Review about how co-sleeping can cause sleep problems later on in children. They cited anxiety, obesity (related to stress from lack of sleep, I believe), etc. as issues that can develop. Since we already have a problem with getting our dog out of our bed, I think I may try to start out with crib sleeping (in our same bedroom) from the beginning.

I really do appreciate this community and hope to learn more from all of you!

Good luck Liz, I know this is tough, but it sounds like you have a good plan! One thing I would mention that helped my daughter make the transition was getting her VERY sleepy but not quite asleep (tricky..) and then putting her in the crib. Point being to have her actually fall asleep there so that when she woke up there she wasn't disoriented like she might be if she fell asleep in my arms. Our ped recommended this to us, and it seemed to work. Also, so they learn, oh, this is where I go to sleep, this is my bed.

Something else I think helped - I would take one of those buckwheat neck pillow things that you can heat in the microwave, and put it in her bed to warm the bed up (then take it out), before I put her in. It made the bed warm and smell like lavender, and I thought that was pretty cozy for her.

We are another family with an unused crib. We are on number 2 now and the twin mattress on the floor next to our low bed (and up against the wall on other side and head) has worked beautifully for both of ours and for us after the kids were too big/active to sleep with us. We never had to drag our sleeping selves into the other room to figure out what was wrong, we never worried about them being too warm or cold or falling out of anything. I think we slept better than other families I know who had separate rooms. Our older child moved herself into her own room when she was 4.5yrs and has had no problem remaining there except for the odd trip to our room (once every couple of months in the past year). Our youngest is in the twin in our room now and I am guessing he will move into the kids' room even sooner than number 1 did.

I love having my kids feel secure in their sleep space and I want to appreciate the closeness while we have it and encourage the separation when they are ready.

Good plan! One thing I'd say is that you shouldn't get discouraged if the nap-adjustment doesn't go well. My daughter has never been able to fall asleep on her own during the day, in her crib. But she'll jibber jabber herself to sleep at night, in the dark, no problem. So if the naps don't work, don't give up on nights!

This is one of those parenting challenges where you truly have as many answers for as many children on this board, and you have to do what's right for your family.

That said, what worked for us was this...

We had a co-sleeper attached to the bed for a couple of months. Once the night wakings started to stretch out, we put the co-sleeper in "pack n play" position and moved it a couple feet away from the bed. We then moved it down the hall, and eventually downstairs to the kids' room.

We just about lost it with sleep deprivation for baby number 1, and ended up having her cry it out once she was 6 months old. In about 5 days she went from waking literally every hour all night long to sleeping from 7p-7a. It was hard, but so worth it. She was happier, and we were able to be better parents.

Babies 2 and 3 went a little differently. We'd learned to teach them to sooth themselves from day one (as in not crying to sleep that young, of course, but laying next to us with just a hand on them while they go to sleep, and eventually putting down in the co-sleeper by themselves awake, etc.) When they turned 6 months, they already knew how to put themselves to sleep at the beginning of the night, and I decided to let them cry a bit during the night. It only took 2 nights of about 15 minutes of crying each. They more easily made that transition to their own rooms. Actually, I found that it really stunk having them in our rooms and we ended up moving them before we were ready to, since every time we rolled over or got up to go to the bathroom, it would wake them. Once we moved them, everyone was sleeping through the night.

I have to admit that I am kind of with anonamama (not sure if I remember the name right, sorry), and say that I don't really understand co-sleeping. I guess I learned from my sister, who was kicking her 12-15 year olds out of her bed that co-sleeping probably wasn't the right solution for our family. And, my husband and I do much better as parents if we sleep at night, so I guess we are just a bit militant about sleep.

Whatever you decide, I would try to get it sorted out before they are too old to remember sleeping with you. And, I'd recommend not making sleep a battle. We are very lucky that some combo of our parenting and their personalities has resulted in 3 kids who have no problem going to their beds, looking through books or playing and falling asleep on their own. They are also so comfy playing and reading in their beds that when they wake up in the morning, I don't have to rush in. I usually get a good 30-45 minutes while they are babbling to shower and get things ready to start the day.

Anyway...I hope that the transition works well for you.

I went through transitioning my daughter from our bed to her crib at age 10 months for fear I was really becoming psychotic from lack of sleep. I read every sleep book I could get my hands on, cancelled all plans for 2 weeks and made up my mind to truly and really do it. The decision has to be definite first-no wishy, washy. I moved a futon mattress into her room and slept on the floor of her room while she slept in the crib. The best book I found was by Kim West..Good Night Sleep Tight. There were some tears involved but whenever she got really upset I picked her up and soothed her then put her back. It took two weeks to start to get a little better. She is 2, almost 2 1/2 now, and a great little sleeper, but I have learned I can never, ever sleep with her on vacations or anything b/c she then wants to do it all the time. This makes me sad and I do miss sleeping and snuggling with her but noone ever got any sleep (literally) and we were all like walking zombies. So, that is what worked for us. Good luck. It is incredibly hard.

No one has mentioned techniques in the crib to sooth ie sleep sack and a little blanket. I know my little one hated being alone and just needed to feel cozy. I think cosleeping, and the co-sleeper both offer a smaller, cozier surround. Just a thought. My little one was always swaddled and snuggled. I couldn't handle the cosleeping personally . . .I was awake all night fearing rolling over, smothering, and my kiddo is such a noisy sleeper. My husband loved it however and would still love the little one in the bed. I am always curious how co-sleepers get rid of the fear and then there is the intimacy . . .I really missed this with my husband. All and all my little guy sleeps a good 12-13 hours nightly in his crib and has one fabulous 2-3 hour nap daily at almost 14 months. Everyone is different and I would agree . . .go with the instinct. The book that I read (and was not religious about just took suggestions) Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child. It really discusses an appropriate sleep routine and how to achieve it with either of three methods: no attachment (cry it out), some attachment, and co-cleeping. Loved it.

I forgot to say in last posting, don't worry about naps. Let them be b/c you want them to be rested to deal with the nighttime changes. Read Kim West-she says you don't have to work on naps. I never did and only worked on the nighttime stuff and it has been fine and let me tell you, my daughter was up literally every 90-120 minutes from about 11pm to 7am which then led to me bringing her into our bed out of sheer exhaustion so I know about tired. Read Kim West and adapt for your family.

Re: getting one's kid to sleep. I truly think a lot of it has to do with the kind of kid you get.

Parents fortunate enough to get babies who just fuss a little before happily falling asleep are naturally going to be puzzled by those whose babies need lots of nursing and rocking before they'll drift off (a situation which tends to lead to and be made easier to deal with by co-sleeping.)

Parents with babies who will scream unconsolably for hours if not nursed and rocked will wonder just what gives with those who claim their kids "just fuss a little then go right to sleep!"

But there really do seem to be two types of babies, and the technique that works for one won't with the other.

Moxie explains it all much better than I can.

http://moxie.blogs.com/askmoxie/2006/06/babies_and_cio.html

Sorry for the lengthy post!!

My son is almost 15 months old and, having survived the last year+ with a combination of co-sleeping (in our bed and next to us in a pack n' play, and later in an Ambybed) and crib sleeping in his own room, I am just praying that #2 will be a better sleeper all around. And #2 is definitely not on the way, since we haven't yet recovered from #1! I think, unfortunately, so much of whether a child sleeps through the night or not depends on their temperament and how they handle physical pain (teething, sickness, etc.) and milestone adjustments (walking, standing, etc.). Our son has been a horrible sleeper, and I have recently had to go on anti-depressants because of my own insomnia (which I think was a combination of ruined sleep cycles, building anxiety, longterm sleep deprivation...). He slept exclusively in our room until six or seven months, and I loved having the closeness and didn't want him "far away" in his room. Out of sheer exhaustion, my husband and I made the decision to transition him to his room and crib by beginning with naps and then nights about a week later. I should also mention that our son suffered from reflux/GERD and we tried every gadget and homeopathic remedy before realizing that baby zantac was the only thing that provided him relief (he also rejected solids because of tummy discomfort until close to a year). I know most families don't have to deal with this much physical pain with sleep, though. From months 6-8 or so, I went in and nursed him as frequently as every hour some nights because we felt like letting him cry when he was in physical distress was just cruel. He ended up in our bed at some point in the night, usually after 3-4 hours, just because I couldn't zombie into his room more than once. I should also say that we read every sleep book and we always put him down drowsy-awake and he self-soothed to sleep the initial time. As he slowly outgrew the reflux (thankfully!) and felt better with his meds, and as I felt myself going off the deep end from sleep deprivation, we tried sleep training with limited crying where Dad would go in to soothe. I wish I could say sleep training or cry-it-out were the cure-all that so many families believe it is and many books would have you believe! We've had to do some form of sleep training multiple times, because every illness or tooth seems to disrupt the good patterns we've established. That's what I mean by different temperaments/pain thresholds... we are confident that our son is a smart, joyful, sensitive boy that feels pain more intensely than others. He's never been a "go with the flow" kinda guy, and this has translated into a frequent night-waker. Around a year I would say life should have gotten a lot easier. He was able to sleep longer chunks (6-8 hours some nights) and was eating more "real food", as he outgrew the reflux pretty much entirely. And when he's not getting a molar or sick (we're on the last 15-month molar now!), he can sleep from 8pm- 6am, though this has only happened two or three times. I say life "should have" gotten easier because by that time, my own sleep was so messed up from a year of not having for than a couple nights of 3-4+ hour chunks of sleep. What has really worked well for us is when my husband steps in and soothes in the night. Our son learns to not wake up at the same time within a night or two when he knows he's not getting the boob. The problem is my husband is a far heavier sleeper than me and we live in an apartment, so I can't "get away". There's hope for us, though! We'll be moving into our first house in a couple weeks, so the plan is to night wean as soon as he's comfortable in the new place.

I have to commend all new parents who deal with sleep deprivation on some level or another. It's amazing what a full REM cycle will do, and I know for a fact that I am a much better mom and happier with life in general when I get sleep. To those just starting out, I would recommend transitioning to a crib in a separate room sooner than we did IF your child does not suffer from any medical problems. I truly don't believe we could have done things much differently than we did with our first, given his reflux and painful night crying. We're hoping that when we decide we're ready for number two, we'll get "a sleeper". Provided we do get a happier, less uncomfortable little one, I can confidently say we'll make the move sooner, as hard as it is. Though I loved and wouldn't take back the closeness we had with our first, I don't think he's worse off for the times we've had to let him cry some, and I don't know how I would survive another non-sleeper!! Ours definitely sleeps better in his own room, as he's a very light sleeper. Do what's right for your family, but don't underestimate the importance, for your own health and sanity, of a full night's sleep!

Good luck with the move! I think there are plenty of sleeping options out there and different ones will work best with different families. Personally we moved our son into the crib when he started outgrowing his Moses basket at 3.5 months. At that age, it was way harder on me than him. I got up at least 5x the first night to check on him! However, I knew that we were not going to want a 3 year old still sleeping in our bed. And after watching the difficulties my in-laws had moving my nephew to his own bed, we decided to switch earlier rather than later.

If you have the room, I think having the crib in your room for awhile would be nice. We definitely do not in our 100 year old house so that wasn't an option, but it would have made for a nice transition. As it was, my son barely noticed the change and has continued to be a great sleeper. Occasionally I'll bring him into our bed in the mornings or let him fall asleep with us at night, but otherwise he has his own room which works out best for our family.

I did co-sleeping with my son for 6 months (until I got up to pee one morning and he fell out of bed). He slept longer stretches in his own bed, but I still didn't get any sleep until I night weaned at 11 months. There is no way I could night weaned in the same bed... my little guy was strong willed from day one and it would have driven him crazy to smell the breast. My only parenting regret is not night-weaning him younger, as I was soooo sleep deprived. He slept through the night as soon as he adjusted to the idea-- about 5 days.

How does one go about night weaning? The idea has crossed my mind fairly often lately. Ideas? The thought terrifies me, we've never not nursed at night. I have no idea how to begin.

Well, so far we have made some progress. We're to the point of taking both naps in the crib and he's pretty well. Occasionally my mom or husband cheats and takes the easy way out and puts him on the bed (3 times this has happened).
He's waking up cheerful in the crib, I think he might kinda like it at this point.
Tomorrow we're moving the crib into the nursery. We'll keep working on the naps and then Friday night I plan to sleep in the nursery with him (there is a twin bed). I plan to be up all night (hopefully I won't be).
For the record, I would've co slept with him for a much longer period, if it weren't for the need to spice up my marriage and get some rest. (Rest first, spice later.)
My apologies for writing endlessly on this topic that has consumed my life.
Also, if anyone is still reading this, I retract my previous question, I am not ready for weaning of any kind, not ready to let go of that precious cuddling.

I love these posts. I love cosleeping with my baby but she also just started getting really restless and wakes up crying. She wants me and then pushes me away at the same time. She sleeps fine at daycare in her playpen. These posts have been so helpful in my decision to start moving her to her own bed.

Truly, transition from your bed to his/her own bed is a tough phase for every parent. It is sad and scary (sometimes) to see our children grow. But, why look at the glass half empty when you can look at it half full? Think of it this way: your kid is fast learning and developing. He/She would be a brilliant child one day.

I think going with your motherly instinct is the best recommendation of all. I think parents today read too many books and there are too many "theories" out there that don't need to be obsessed over. Your baby will give you signs of what he or she needs. Just follow your heart and what you individually believe is right for your family, yourself and your baby. Good luck.

I am sooo excited to read these comments. My boy is 11 wks old and my husband and I have very different ideas of raising kids. In his culture bed sharing is simply what you do! The idea freaked me out but once the breastfeeding began, he wouldn't latch so I was pumping the first 2 weeks, it became the only way we got any rest!

I was thrilled to see a few moms comment about their babies pushing and pulling simultaneously! We've been experiencing that and it was killing me! I did think that might mean he wanted more space so I've been putting him in his bassinet (pushed against our bed) most nights. I have found that he will only sleep in it swaddled or in a sleep sack. Yet, he writhes and moves around soooo much when he's in it! I end up spending almost the whole time with my hand on his chest!

My other issue is generally the only way to get him to sleep is to nurse him asleep. So, he's falling asleep with me and I know it is best for him to wake up where he went to sleep. I would try harder with putting him down sleepy, but he nurses, then bam, he's out! Also, hubs works 2 jobs and is up very early and gets home late, so I hate to torture him!

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