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Biting: when it happens at daycare

The only time we've talked about biting here is when big sis was biting little bro.  We know, though, that biting happens a lot with these little folks, and one urbanPapa is wondering how to handle his toddler's biting experiences at daycare:

Our 15 month old son goes to a great day care.  We agree with most of their approach and philosophy, love the energy there and have a number of friends who feel the same.  Our son has been bitten continually for the last few weeks. Theories have been forwarded about the kids needing better/earlier naps etc, but no actual solution has thus far been found. Of course we've been told that this is a "phase" and there is the real possibility that our little guy could be on the other side of the equation at some point . . . I would not be surprised if we are.

That said, I wonder how daycares can curb this kind of thing with the "never say no" methodology of teaching kids. The gentle re-direction and positive alternative-giving approach I see on the ground in the classroom don't seem all that effective to me. If anything the problem seems to be getting worse, as it is now more than one kid getting in on it. Can a culture of this kind of thing set in?  What kind of expectations (if any) are set with the parent of the kids doing the continual biting?

We are alternately pissed and then worried we are overreacting. Our pediatrician told us this morning that kid bites can cause infection more easily than a dog's . . . which did not help. :)

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Biting is an emotional topic! Having been through both sides of it, I feel like I have some perspective.

First of all, yes it is true that human bites are supposed to be worse than dog bites but I've never actually known of an infected human bite. I've seen a lot of bites though.

The most important lesson I've learned is that THIS TOO WILL PASS. I think we waste a lot of energy on biting which is obviously a natural instinct not really any different than hitting or throwing. There is a lot of shame thrown around and victim vs. agressor stuff that isn't really present when a child is hitting another child. I think that's because it's hard to see those teeth marks on your toddler's arm for the next week!

I have read everything out there on biting and punishment doesn't seem to be the answer. Shadowing seems to really work where the teacher keeps a very close eye on the biter (1:1 for days), avoiding triggers and interfering with distraction when the biter is taking aim. Maybe giving the biter something else to bite or squeeze in that frustrated moment. Shadowing takes increased staffing though so not always an option.

It seems like by preschool (age 3) the biting is pretty much over and by kindergarten it's all water under the bridge and you can't even remember who was biting who back in the toddler phase. If you are able to step back, put it into perspective and realize that it'll be over soon, I think that will help. Plus, once your child learns how effective biting is as a tool for communication - he very well may be the next biter in the class so go easy on those poor parents and teachers!

Having studied anthropology, I realize how unusual our culture is for being so involved in the interactions of our kids. In many third world countries, kids of all ages play together without adult supervision and they work our their roles in the group independently (and often physically!).

I wish you the best of luck and will keep my fingers crossed that you don't lose as much sleep over this as I used to.

My son was bitten at daycare on the face near his eye. The next day his eye was swollen and our pediatrician almost sent us to the hospital it was so infected. Our son was given a heavy duty shot of antibiotics which did the trick. We've always felt our daycare handled it appropriately and eventually the biting stopped. I never felt the need to overreact because I knew someday I would be on the other end with my child biting a peer.

I do agree that this phase will pass but in the meantime keep a close eye on those bites because infections do happen.

I disagree-There are biters in this world and those that dont bite.Im sure your child wont bite-if he is not taught to.It is the parents job to protect their innocent babe from this abuse.I think the offending biters need to be removed from care until they stop,if thats not supported than I would find a more positive care setting.You should be pissed-your child is being abused.

Are the other children at day care around the same age? 15-18 months? My advice is to ask staff about how they're monitoring the children. At that age it's unrealistic to expect children to learn to control themselves and not bite, but staff should be watching interactions between children. What's the adult/child ratio? When children this age approach each other, it's rarely to "play," and it can easily turn into grabbing, pushing, biting. The caregivers should be paying close attention to the children when they get into each other's personal space. Bites will happen, but if it's been happening on a regular basis, it won't hurt to find out what staff are doing to predict and prevent.

Such a tough one. I would disagree with Heather. . .my child has been bitten and my child luckily isn't a biter. The child that bit my little one is from a loving, very attentive family. The little one was just frustrated and probably teething as well. When little ones can't tell us their needs they act out in sometimes inapproprate ways. Redirection and close monitoring seems to help. I certainly was ticked, but also as a momma . . .very understanding.

I would not characterize young toddlers biting one another as abuse, it is very normal behavior. Not to say it shouldn't be prevented if possible and addressed when it does happen. My daughter was bit and also bit in her childcare setting, at around the same age, and I remember being upset by it, but it really was a phase that seemed to pass very quickly. I don't think the biters should be "punished" but why not told "no"? Children should be able to say no to one another and the provider should be able to as well, in my opinion. More important would be to prevent the biting, and in our center, it seemed to be handled pretty effectively by monitoring EXTRA closely a child who was going through a biting phase and diverting when it seemed close to happening.

I also question why not say "no"? There are many more positive ways to do so, such as "we don't bite," "we use our mouths for eating," "you man not bite" if they are preferred. These are the types of thing my son's preschool teachers use on hitting, throwing, etc. I think making it clear to the biter that it is not acceptable behavior is important without worrying about punishment.

As it has been said, biting is visceral and young kids don't have many communication tools. My daughter isn't in care with other other children but at 18 months she has reached for her brother's arm with an open mouth on several occasions. Thankfully he is old enough and generally calm enough to deal with it in a reasonable way. She got so mad at the phone the day that she bit it. It was sort of funny and sad but I could also understand her strong impulse of frustration.

I JUST went through this with my 15 month old. SO. NOT. FUN. After literally about ten bites from a little girl he adores, I did some research, talked to friends and requested the following:

1. The teacher keep a "log" for herself to track when and why the bites were happening to see if any trends could be spotted around the behavior.

2. My daycare reports every incident on a form. I had them go back over every form to see if there were trends around the time of day it was happening (biting had followed him from another classroom).

3. I talked to the director and asked him to provide more support to the teacher during transition periods & identified "problem times". Even if someone could come in for ten minutes and help keep the kids occupied separately. I know this is really NOT possible for most parents, but I also offered to flex my schedule to stop in and visit the classroom during problem time periods. (I am lucky enough to be close enough to the center to do this and ended up not having to do it)

4. The teacher does do the gentle re-direction, but she also started heaping on attention to whomever got bitten and letting the biter know that if you bite you don't get that attention.

I've been in the classroom when my son got bit, so I KNOW it happens fast and it is hard to prevent even with multiple people there. However, after I sat down with the teacher and the director with those requests, we have not had even one incident. Not sure if all that helped or if timing coincided with the end of a phase. It could be either.

At any rate, it's awful on both sides of the equation.

Wow, I feel as if I had written the initial post myself. We had a bad biting problem at our daycare for about nine months. My son was coming home almost daily with bites on his body, and usually one of these was severe enough to draw blood each week. One child started the biting and then it just spiralled out of control from there. I think the "never tell a child no" approach is just completely ineffective. Each time the child in our classroom bit, the teacher gave him a "time in" and they put a full-time shadower in the room just for him. It doesn't take too much of a genius kid to figure out this is an awesome way to get attention, and voila, you have a biting epidemic on your hands. My son quickly went from bitee to biter and even started to chomp on me at home. A few very clear "no's", "biting hurts", and time outs put an end to the biting at home after about 2 weeks. I also found that it was helpful to give my son a wet washcloth when I could see he was getting frustrated and needed to bite something.

I agree with the other posters -- biting is a phase and I think it's reasonable to expect that your child will be bitten on occasion at daycare. It is not reasonable, however, to have this go on day after day. Try to talk to the teachers and center director daily about how they are dealing with the biting and ask how you can help. In our case, the biting finally lessened when the daycare reshuffled kids around between classrooms. Good luck!

We went through this several months ago at our daycare. My daughter was (mostly) the one being bitten but then she started to bite too. I learned about the biting first because she would say "No Bite" or "No Bite name" in the car on the way to daycare. Asked her teacher about it & turns out she was hearing the teachers/other kids tell the biter(s) No Bite.

Later, another little boy in her class started biting her. The solution they came up with was pinning a binky on his shirt so that when he needed to bite something, it was RIGHT THERE.

Then suddenly, it all passed. I think their language skills got better & they got through that teething stage.

My daughter is still very good at (loudly) telling others "Don't hit me" or "Don't touch me" or "Don't bite me." It's kind of cute that she's learning to be assertive!

my (will be 3 in one month) daughter was bit today at our cooperative preschool. in addition to the teacher, there were at least 9 parents there with the kids. it was my "off" day so i was not in attendance. apparently she was tackled by the 3 year old boy and bit hard. the mom is completely non-responsive (she is like this when he is bouncing off the walls during circle time, when kids are trying to paint but can't because he's disruptive, etc.).

anyway, my biggest concern at this point is the fact that the bite marks are clear, distinct teeth (at least 12) and it's red and raised. do i need to take her in to the doc or am i overreacting?

any feedback would be helpful.

oh, and btw, the reaction of the teacher was to talk to me when i arrived and carefully explain the situation and how to handle it. in addition, she sent this email:

"As happens every school year, since it's common in children this age, we had an incident of biting in the classroom today. Not surprisingly, it occurred during a transition time in the day (clean up), since transitions are more stressful for children (and adults).

We will handle class dynamics after Thanksgiving break with this tried-and-true method:

1. For the child who experimented with biting, we will use a "shadow." I will switch the "shadow" (parent in this case) into the floater position for a few class sessions so that the shadow can be present, down on the floor, and immediately available to reach an arm out and protect/ guide the child to more positive responses. Biting behavior happens very, very quickly and children who are experimenting with it need undivided and close supervision.

2. For any child experiencing someone biting him or her, we want to acknowledge that it really hurts and is not okay for someone to touch your body that way. Coach children that they can move away if someone's getting too close. A sign that biting may occur is very close contact-- contentious play in tight quarters, a "hug" tightens up, many people close in line together, etc.

3. If biting occurs, keep it low-key and don't show if you yourself are upset since that's part of the cycle that feeds biting behavior-- the shocked reactions of onlookers. We also (at this age) don't "punish" a child experimenting with biting (by time-outs or other disciplinary measures) but instead focus on anticipating stressors that increase likelihood of the behavior. If biting occurs, have the child who engaged in biting help the other child by getting an icy, a band-aid, etc. Give more attention to the child who was bitten, but not too much-- keep low key.

4. If a child has experimented by biting, at a later, calm time, reiterate that "biting hurts. I can't let you bite. Teeth are for chewing food."

4. Children who were present for a biting incident are far more likely to experiment with this behavior and try it on for size. I ask all of you to closely observe / be present for your child's interactions over the coming days and be ready and able to intervene. This means that at playdates, family functions next week, etc., it will be crucial to have an adult down at child level and observant of interactions.

5. A tool to decrease biting is to (during calm times) coach your child on vocabulary that applies to emotional states, both positive and negative feelings. This can be done not only by acknowledging the child's own feelings, but by pointing out / observing feelings in others the child witnesses. Another tool is to serve chewy, crunchy food. Children experiencing an oral need respond well to "tough" snacks. A recent study found the the incidence of biting in daycares went down when chewy/tough foods like carrots, celery, sourdough bread were served as opposed to soft breads, crumbly crackers, etc.

6. Please let me know ASAP if one of your children experiments with biting since it will be crucial for us to implement shadowing.

Recently in class we have been saying the Space Bubble rhyme:

I have my very own space.
It's my body's very own place.
My space bubble is all around me.
It's not something you can see.
But if someone gets too close, I can say,
Stop, I need space.

We may use unique strategies to respond to certain behaviors, but the bottom-line goal is the one (parent education teacher) and I have discussed with you-- self-regulation, one of our big goals in Pre-Threes (alongside sensory exploration, such as today's foam painting, water play). We will continue to support each other through the occasional challenges we encounter along that road. What a great group of parents and kids alike. This might be a good time to add that today's circle time had lots of amazing self-regulation and creativity alike! The children are really growing in this direction."

Mine was the Big Sis biting Little Bro, now it's the other way around. My daughter did it out of boredom, frustration or just for the attention. The only thing that got her to stop was soap on her tongue every time she bit. We also talked about using words instead and she started preschool which gives her some space without an annoying little brother in her face all the time.
My 20 mo son bites out of frustration or excitement and loves the reaction he gets from his sister. She squeals in terror every time he comes near her with his mouth aimed at her. We are working on her telling him "No Biting, Stop" and she knows she's allowed to use her hands to keep him out of biting range. The soap doesn't seem to make a difference with him so we're just trying to keep a close eye for when he's about to bite and stop it before he gets a chance to.

My son was a biter at that age. Thankfully (I guess) he only bit me and my husband, and he grew out of it rather quickly. I found it really, really, really helped to include "Teeth Are Not For Biting" in his story collection. It was mentioned in the previous thread about biting, and it helped a lot. He loved the book, and wanted to read it over and over again. It provides empathy for the biter and bitee, and gives alternatives for what to do when you feel like biting.

Perhaps you could suggest that your daycare provider include this book in the storytime collections?

I am a mother of a biter. She's been biting on and off ever since she got teeth. [Note to Heather - you are just plain wrong sorry.] We have tried everything. She's a sweet girl. Not a bully. She's just... oral. While other children hit and push, she... bites. She's one of the favorits with the kids - very outgoing and loving - but when she is frusterated (and tired during "transition times") she bites. We have done the following: Talked about biting hurting, continually encouraging her to use her words, lavishing attention on the bitten, reintroducing her binky back into the mix, reinforcing good days each and every day saying "yay you were nice to your friends and didn't hurt them today!" It's now finally starting to work. We took the focus off of the word "bite" and put it on "hurt." And we now have a plan that if she bites again she will be removed from the area and not given any attention - a formal time out - for two min. Biting creates a ruckus for the whole daycare room so cutting her off from the action will also be a deterant. I have hope but it's been a rough process. We have felt so terrible as parents that other children have been bit. She herself has been bit several times but unfortunately she's the primary one in her class that bites :(. Many good tips here in this thread. Just know that MOST parents of biters really care and are working very very hard to prevent it. All of the professionals we have gone to continue to say unfortunately (and fortunately) biting is in the realm of normal.

I am the Mom of a child who has bitten. I have found no other topic to be as touchy as biting. Heather, you are being a bit judgemental. It's great that your kids have never bitten, but that doesn't make you a better parent. Nobody "teaches" their kid to bite. Most of us do everything possible to stop it. It is not abuse. Sure, it stinks, but it just happens. Little kids don't know how to appropriately deal with frustration, so some of them lash out sometimes. Like most of the other Moms said, they usually grow out of it. Those who don't may need some extra evaluation/treatment(psychological, occupational therapy). My child bit the same child at 2 different preschools (and no other child). The teachers handled it well by shadowing her and paying close attention to transition times. My daughter no longer bites now that she has a better set of tools.

I don't have kids, and this is just a though...but normally kids this young wouldn't be out in the world on their own. They'd still be at home with mom and the only thing around to bite (or be bitten by) would be siblings. From the parental perspective this would be a petty family squabble. Irritating, but hardly vicious or dangerous.

On the other hand by the time a kid is old enough to go running of to play with their friend (5? 6?) biting would be dangerous and antisocial.

So your kids out there, without you, among his peer, getting chomped and your mother instincts aren't happy about it.

But in a way, practically speaking, these kids are siblings. Its the same group of kids, being cared for by the same people, in the same place for prolonged periods of time, most days a week (I'm guessing). There maybe a difference to us grownups in a kid biting a sibling rather than someone else's kid, but they don't know that.

Just my two sense. Don't want to offend anybody. If you don't like- chuck it.

What about teaching the kids sign language? Of at least the biting kids a few signs for frustration. A friend of a friend who worked as a special ed teacher did this with her 10 month old. My did with her toddler. They learned to sign before talking and it seemed to make them less frustrated.

My aunt taught her toddler.

While I agree that Heather's comment is straight to the point, sort of abrupt, I don't think she is being judgmental. Let's look at the facts. Some kids bite, some kids don't. All Mama's want to protect the child who is being bit, bitten, whatever. I think that it is very hard to show young kids that there are other ways to display anger, frustration, stress, etc. We all do our best. I think the biter should be scooped up and removed from the situation and then told by the victim how much this hurts and scares them. The biter does not need to be redirected, they need a social timeout. It doesn't have to be harsh, but it should be lonely. The child needs to know that biting will not be tolerated in their social circle. And then hugs and kisses.

I also wanted to say that I would talk to the people at the center and truly express all of your concerns because if your child is being bit for weeks, everyday, this is completely unacceptable. I think the biting does sit on the abuse/violence fence when it goes on and on and on. I would blame the workers for being passive not the baby.

For w--post about co-op with the email from teacher. What is the name of that co-op? What an awesome response you got from the teachers!

My son, now 18 months old, has been bitten about four or five times at daycare between August 08 and now. I was mortified when I learned about the first incident. His daycare documents any incidents (signed, triple carbon copy, the works) that occur when he is in their care, such as falls and bites.

The daycare has a policy on biting - more than three times in one day, then the biting child must leave for the rest of the day. They also work with the child to re-direct their communication, energy, frustration, etc. The main thing here is that the child cannot communicate what they want verbally, so they act out orally. Biting is not something they are taught - it is completely natural (Heather, take note).

Like many posters have mentioned, biting is not new, it is a phase, one that should not be ignored, but handled in an appropriate manner on both sides.

I was really rushed in my last post so I did sound really abrupt.It amazing how many different interpretations came out of my first post.I have 2 children,one was a biter,one was not.When I said that kids are taught to be biters-I meant non biters learning to bite after being bitten repeatedly. It seems like thats whats happening at the original posters care center.Of course I dont think kids that bite have abusive parents. I want to say that I dont think the abuse is so much from child to child-its that the caregivers are letting it continue for so long thats wrong.If I bit your child repeatedly (or even once) I would be going to jail. Can a 15 month old really make the distinction that being hurt by a peer or by an adult is any different? I think its the parents job to protect your child from abusive situations,whatever they may be. My first child was abused in an ongoing biting situation so when my 2nd turned into a viper I pulled her from childcare until she could control her impulses better.

I am not ok with biting. My son was bitten by a child at his daycare and had to be admitted to the hospital for IV abx and treatment within 24 hours of the incident at OUR expense. We also are now paying for recommend testing on a periodic basis for hepatitis and HIV. So...I do not take biting lightly. AND if my now infant son becomes a biter I will pull him from daycare and figure something else out b/c other parents should not have to deal with the worry or expense that we have had to.

It's amazing how quickly biting becomes a part of your life. My 2.5 year old was (thankfully) never a biter, and there have never been any problems with this in her Montessori classroom. We've been very lucky. She responded well from an early age to a strong "no bite" from me the few times she would test the biting waters. But I've noticed lately that she has become very interested in biting, but just talking about wanting to do it. I think it's because her younger sister, who is 10 months, is providing increasing frustration in her life now that she's old enough to move around and play with her toys. I've found that it helps to give her some very crunchy food to bite into (biting into a whole apple is especially soothing to her) when she starts talking about biting. I'm seeing her biting urges decrease, but unfortunately she is starting to get bit by my 10 month old. Now to tackle that issue.

I am,in home daycare provider. I watch four children all around the same age. One has recently started biting she has done this 3 times in the last week. I am torn because I do feel it is a phase, but I can not always have her in my line of sight. I think that one of my families would like her removed if this continues. Any advice for smaller daycare providers?

Parents whose children bite other children at daycare, repeatedly, hard and over a long period of time, should remove their children from daycare.

My son, aged 2, is afraid to go to daycare, because, despite my daycare provider's best efforts, a child the same age as him bites him regularly. The bites are hard enough to break the skin through a shirt. I feel wretched dropping off there knowing that he is afraid and will be hurt that day. He loves his daycare provider, and I do not want to disrupt his routine by moving him.

When someone's behaviour, whether they are 2 or 20, causes other people to be afraid and upset over weeks and months on end, there is a big problem. Parents who are unable to modify their child's violent behaviour should seek professional help, instead of allowing innocent peers of their child to suffer while they try out whatever useless theory the most recent parenting bestseller has to offer.

While it is clear that biting is a phase many kids go through, perhaps parents should, when that phase turns into a behaviour problem, take responsibility for their son or daughter, take some time off and fix their problem, instead of leaving their daycare and other parents to do it for them.

As a footnote, ask mothers and fathers in their sixties, seventies and eighties how they solved this problem. You may find that some of their ideas will work for you.

I have a 4 year old and a 2 year old son...both biters. I was at my wits end when my 4 year old bit because we did everything possible to stop it. We read "no biting" and "teeth are for eating not biting." We added "please help me remember not to bite Jesus" to our prayers each night. We praised the good behavior and made it a point to address the bad/biting behavior w/ consequences. The biting spiked when we brought baby brother home from the hospital. I was home for the summer (I am a teacher) and the biting stopped. Now my 2 year old has begun biting. He was the victim quite a few times and has now become the "predator" in the classroom. I know from going through it before it is a phase but many parents are not understanding when their child comes home with bite marks. It is no different then the pushing, hitting, kicking, scratching, throwing of toys that many of the other kids do. They are all physical forms of expression for children at this age who cannot express themselves as well verbally. However, the reason biting is taken more seriously and parents make a bigger stink about it is because it leaves a much worse mark then the other forms of physical expression. The best thing to do is work with the daycare provider and continue to work with your child to teach them to express themselves verbally. If you are a parent of a biter, keep doing your best and being firm...this too shall pass. If you are a parent of a "bitee" please be aware the other parents are just as good of parents as you are and are doing everything possible to "cure" their child of this phase. They are doing whatever it takes and they do not want their child biting anyone any more than you want your child being bit...this too shall pass!

Thank you for the resources. Keep up the good work!.
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What an array of opinions. I am very personally affected and upset by this. My 20 month old son was dismissed from his daycare upon my arrival today because of his biting.

He has only been in daycare for 2 months. The 2nd week, I received a call on my way to pick him up that there had been an incident and he had been bitten 4 times in the matter of a few seconds (according to the asst. director). I was understanding until I inspected him at bath time that evening and saw that there was a sever bite on his lower back and one on his right shoulder, left arm and the final on the left side of his neck. I was perplexed and concerned that this biting in multiple spots took place without the 2 teachers noticing. He has a scar on his back from the worst one and his physician said it would diminish has he got older but would probably always be there.

The teachers and director reassured me by letting me know that the offending child only had one more day and was leaving the daycare.

Yes, you guessed it. Three day's later he started biting. Due to his lack of napping during the day, he brings a great deal of frustration to the teachers because he only sleeps 30 minutes, while the others sleep 2+ hours. I addressed it by becoming vigilant upon arrival and departure from daycare and had multiple "we don't bite, it hurts" conversations at home. However, he doesn't bite his siblings that are within 24 months of his age. I was told on a four different occassions that he had bitten someone that day and did my best to brain storm and work with the school. However, most days, I was told he did fine. He has been bitten 3-4 more times on different days since then, but nothing rampant and as severe as the first time.

Today, I arrived to drop off my children and the director told me that she needed to speak with me before I took my son to his room. She informed me that he had bitten a child "much younger" than him, while she slept. I was appauled that it had happened, but could not help but ask why the teachers were not able to prevent that and there had been no issues to my knowledge in over 2 weeks (except for him being bitten once). She said that it had been ongoing and it could not continue. He could not return, unless it was resolved.

I was shocked that it had not been brought to my attention prior to this point. I don't want him to bite anyone and it makes me sick to think of him hurting anyone. He is very small for his age and still wears many 9-12 month size clothings and was premature.

I know this is me getting stuck on something that I need to let go of, but he never bit anyone until he was bitten 4 times in the daycare and will have a life-long scar and does not bite at home making it difficult to give consequences.

I do have a daughter still attending the daycare, but am really troubled by the sequence of events that took place and taking him in with me to drop her off everyday. Rational thinking would help me calm down and gain perspective. Thank you.

Just to comment on this statement:
"I disagree-There are biters in this world and those that dont bite.Im sure your child wont bite-if he is not taught to.It is the parents job to protect their innocent babe from this abuse.I think the offending biters need to be removed from care until they stop,if thats not supported than I would find a more positive care setting.You should be pissed-your child is being abused."

I think as parents it is important to advocate for your child and that is one of the most important jobs any parent has but we also need to consider our community. A child care center, early learning facility, or day care (all the same thing) is foremost a community, an extended family. When we only consider ourselves and tell parents to leave and that they are no longer welcome I think we also need to consider the impact that has on others. It is pretty selfish for us to say that there is only one person in the equation. When parents don't have care that parent needs to leave work, which means they may not get paid, which can place their entire family at risk of several other factors. Lets work together, be a community, try to solve this problem together. Talking like this reminds me of an incident that happened in a city recently. A woman was hit by two cars and no one stopped to help her and she died on the road... alone. How is this similar, well if we are not supporting all families involved we are isolating the "aggressor" and not helping them learn and grow, teaching them empathy and understanding of others.

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