Binky removal causes sleep crisis: What to do?
We're in the middle of a binky induced sleep crisis and I'm looking for some help. A week and a half ago we took away our two year old son's pacifiers and now he is refusing to nap or go to sleep in his own crib. This is a child who has slept (easily) in his crib since coming home from the hospital.At my son's two year appt my pediatrician said we should get rid of the binkies before March when our second child is born. He said if we didn't, then our son would never give them up. For more than a month we restricted binky use to naps and bedtime only. Then last Saturday (a week and a half ago) we cut the tops off of the binkies. I expected this would be a gradual way of getting him to dislike and ditch his binkies. Instead he totally rejected them instantly and we had a cold turkey situation on our hands.I tried to do this as gently as I could. I bought books to read to my son about giving up the binky to prepare him and we have been talking about it for awhile. Several days after cutting the tops off of the binkies my son and I decorated a box and left it for the Binky Fairy. He received an IKEA train set the next day from the Fairy.
My son does not have a lovie or a blanket that he is attached to (although we're trying). I tried to be very sensitive to his distress the first few days (week). I didn't expect him to cry it out. I allowed him not to nap or to fall asleep on the couch. I rocked him to sleep and when that didn't work let him sleep in bed with us.Whether he falls asleep in the car, on the couch, or in my arms the second his body touches the crib he wakes up, stands up, and starts crying. Last night we let him cry to sleep for the first time in more than a year. He cried for 30 mins before falling asleep. Thankfully he did sleep all night. Today he fell asleep in the car and 15 mins later when I tried to put him in bed he was up screaming. I let him cry it out for 45 minutes and he still did not lay down and sleep. That was around noon. It's now 3:13 and we're on nap attempt #3. So far he's not crying. I'm playing music in his room and I hear him in there playing.I really don't think he's ready not to nap. This is a child who was napping 2-3 hours and still sleeping 11 hours at night. Most importantly I'm not ready for him not to nap. I really need the break. Especially with #2 on the way. I expected this to be a nightmare for a few days, or even a week...but still!?!?!?