Where can you find family BFFs?
We all know, mamas: raising a family takes a village. The support around us can really help us get through the tough moments: when we are sick, working late, or just plain ol' tired. Many of have moved here from afar with very little support in place. All of us are parents, and we had to start somewhere when we - as new parents - started making other friends who were also new parents. After five years of "family dating" and meeting new families, we know there are at least a couple of families out there who we can call on to watch our kids in a pinch or to hang out with late into the night (kids playing while parents banter). We like to think we could ask them almost anything to help our family in a time of need.
When we think about how we met these families and when we think about how close we've gotten with some of these families:
- One family, we met on craigslist. We were looking for a nanny-share four years ago, and they posted an ad. We invited their family over for a playdate, and the rest was history. We ended up sharing the nanny that summer, but we've also shared many a memory since then.
- One family, we met on a yahoo-group. The mamas met first, for a run. After connection was made, the mamas planned another activity: papas and kids meet for coffee playdate while mamas go for a bike ride. Now, the papas call one another more than the mamas.
- One family, we met through school. About a week into first grade at our new school last year, we had an impromptu dinner on a Friday night at our house. Kids played and we talked until probably 10-11pm. Now, if we're up at their house that late, we opt to spend the night so we can watch movies & make breakfast together.
- One family, we met through email. They were moving here to Portland and we had just moved a year before. We shared thoughts on daycare. Now, we share thoughts on relationships and home improvement contractors.
We all need the support from other families as we move onward with the challenges of rearing our little lovelies. Do you have a family that you'd consider your family's "Best Friend(s) Forever"? How'd you find them?