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Suggestions for a 7yo bedwetter?

Mamas, any suggestions?

I have a seven year old who is still wetting the bed every night. I’m interested in knowing if there are other parents out there who have found particular books or bedwetting alarms helpful with their child.  I am considering using a bedwetting alarm and am looking at two in particular, one called the Potty Pager and the other made by Malem, but have no idea how to choose one.  The book Dry All Night: The Picture Book Technique that Stops Bedwetting also intrigues me.  Any advice would be appreciated.


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I can't offer comment on the specific questions you ask, but I'm wondering if you've talked with your pediatrician just to rule out any medical issues. I know sometimes there's an answer they can offer. Good luck to you.

My son had that problem at that age. We did not find the alarms helpful because he slept right thru them. It seemed that limiting drinks at night (I know you've heard that a million times) and some time for his bladder to grow and for him to develop a little more physically did the trick. I'm sure your child will grow out of it, in the meantime, try to be patient. It's not your child's fault and they're not doing it on purpose. One suggestion I heard recently is having 2 layers of sheets on the bed (one under a plastic sheet). Once the top sheets become soiled, you just pull the top set off, and the bed's all ready to go. It sounds like it could save a little frustration at night. My son would just put a towel under him and grab a new blanket (I would leave them in his room) and go back to sleep. Good luck.

my boyfriend's ex-wife's son had that problem too until he was about 8. while it wasn't a medical issue, he is diagnosed as ADHD. the only thing that really worked was not having drinks an hour before bedtime, go potty right before bed, then someone had to wake him about midnight to go potty and then he'd usually stay dry till morning. i know 8yo old is getting up there, so maybe it was just developmentally his time, or maybe the waking him up every night taught his body to respond. having the double layer of sheets also is a good idea (plastic sheet, sheet, plastic sheet, sheet). if there is an accident, maybe your child can just peel off the top layer. good luck!

We had the same problem and took him to the doctor who suggested trying boxers instead of briefs. I know that it sounds strange - it sounded strange at the time to me - but it worked! Never wet the bed after that... The Dr. said something about pressure on the bladder - it might have just been "big boy" enough to get over the bed wetting - either way - it worked!

I'm sorry I don't have any suggestions about the alarms you mentioned, or even what to do, but I was a bed wetter for a long time and I can help give some perspective from there.

Wetting the bed was devastating to me. I would dream that I had to go pee, I'd walk into the bathroom, turn the light on, sit on the freezing toilet, and tell myself okay I'm awake I can go pee, and then pee....only to wake up and find myself still in bed and feeling completely destroyed. This was very hard on me and very embarrassing. I think the double sheets is a great idea because then when it happens no big deal needs to be made about it. Also of course limiting the fluids. I used to sleep walk sometimes on my way to the bathroom (my mother would find me standing in the hall facing the wall) when I was older and no longer wetting. Still today I am a heavy sleeper for hours after I fall asleep(no wetting :)). He will grow out of this and in the mean time try to be supportive as you can to your son so that he isn't embarrassed. Also maybe help him realize he won't do it forever and that some kids take longer on this one thing than others. Good luck.

Hey! This sounds very familiar to me. Same exact situation. We never found limiting beverages helpful. Waking him up once or twice to pee didn't help. We just dealt with a wet bed once or twice a night every night until we invested in the Malem alarm. We were complete skeptics and we totally dragged our feet buying it because it's $100. I know it doesn't work for everyone, but it worked for us. We never made a big deal about our son's wet beds, never a weary sigh. Remained positive, reassured him that every body is different and that he was just a deep sleeper and his brain was having trouble waking up his bladder at night. After we told him that the alarm would help him wake up, he wanted to try it. Key things to remember if you try it: Use a monitor so YOU can hear the alarm. Go wake him up so he walks to the bathroom to finish peeing by himself while you change the towel or liner or whatever you have on top of the sheets. Help him learn how to connect and re-connect the alarm. Keep positive.(All that laundry-it's not easy!) I'm telling you, on the fifth week, we just started having dry nights. By the sixth week, accidents were down to once or twice a week. Seriously. We kept the alarm attached at night for at least two weeks after his last accident. It's been months and it has literally changed our household. He's getting better sleep, so a lot of his behavior issues have disappeared. Even his teacher noticed a change. He's noticeably more confident. My husband and I are sleeping more, so OUR behavior issues are better too! If you want to buy our alarm, I'll sell it to you cheap!

Both my brothers wet the bed for a LONG time. The alarm worked for my older brother, it didn't for my younger. When my younger brother was in junior high and going off to camp the doctor perscribed him a pill that actually helped him not sleep so soundly. He would only take the medicine when he slept at a friend's house or at camp. I remember this really helped him because in his situation he is simply the deepest sleeper any of us know, and the medication was the only thing that worked. He didn't take it all the time, just when he needed to (socially). I remember he was relieved to have this option.

Fabric Depot sells great flannel backed / rubberized fabic. It's not cheap ($15 - $25 a yard depending on the width) but they have frequent 30%-50% off sales (posted on their website calendar) which brings the cost down. I have four that I have sewn fabric onto...my two year old sleeps on them because his diapers frequently leak at night. They are a lifesaver because then you aren't constantly washing the whole sheet and the mattress. I keep one pad under his sheet and one over, so that when he wakes up wet I simply take the first away and we all fall back to sleep. They are also great for traveling.

Good luck!

I'm an acupuncturist in N portland and specialize in pediatrics. Bedwetting is something that often runs in families...my stepdad and my younger brother both did until around 8-9 yrs old. It is also something that can definitely be helped with acupuncture/acupressure. If it sounds like something you would interested in finding out more you can e.mail me with any questions at emilycohen14@yahoo.com. Good luck in your search!

I will second the acupuncture thing absolutely, but if you cant get your kid on board with that try CHIROPRACTIC! I can't say enough good things about it. Seriously, if you're not comfortable with the drug thing, try it. Our whole body is a unit that works together, not just individual pieces. If your spine is not aligned it can put pressure in areas that can affect almost any other part of your body. Headaches, nausea, bed wetting, even chronic ear infections (my son)!
I have nothing to gain by telling you this. Less is more when it comes to my kid, especially drugs. My son has certainly had his share of antibiotics for ear infections or whatever, but I will try and prevent these things or solve them in other ways when possible. By all means if the pill is the only thing that fixes this for you, then go for it.
Amy Watson is a really awesome Chiropractor in NE. She specializes in women and children. Whole Mama Whole Child, I think is the name of her practice. My dad is also a chiropractor (but lives too far away) so I am very picky. Amy was my chiropractor my whole pregnancy.

My husband also wet the bed, until he was 12. After trying many things,his parents finally scheduled an operation to have his urethra enlarged.He didn't immediately quit wetting the bed, but did within about 6 months of the operation. So he isn't sure if it was the operation or that he finally "grew into" his bladder.
Now, he is a confident capable man, who never wets our bed,.... He just hogs the blankets!

My husband also wet the bed, until he was 12. After trying many things,his parents finally scheduled an operation to have his urethra enlarged.He didn't immediately quit wetting the bed, but did within about 6 months of the operation. So he isn't sure if it was the operation or that he finally "grew into" his bladder.
Now, he is a confident capable man, who never wets our bed,.... He just hogs the blankets!

My son wet the bed almost every night until he was 15 and it’s still a problem occasionally. The only thing that worked was time and the drug Imiprimine for overnight school and sports trips, desperate situations when drugs were the only option outside staying home. We tried the potty pager a number of times over the years and my son slept right through, but I know others that have found it helpful. Every pediatrician we worked with told us he would grow out of it. He did have some sort of medical tests early on, I think to check his kidneys. We also saw a physiologist. And we tried testing the size of his bladder by measuring his urine. We cut off drinks after 5/6. We tried waking him in the middle of the night and he would wet the bed an hour later! We did not try acupuncture or chiropractic care, things I would definitely try. I never thought of it. Your child is still young, but we were told many times to make sure that the child is responsible for changing their sheets and washing their clothes. Lots of extra sheets and those expensive thin waterproof mattress liners worked best for us. Less bulk helps keep the laundry more manageable. I cannot say that we never showed our frustration about the situation, but we did do our best to not make our son feel poorly. If you met him, you would never in a million years guess he had this challenge. He has great confidence, self esteem and was really never embarrassed of his bed wetting. My husband and some brothers had some bedwetting issues. We have younger boy who has been dry at night since the age of 3. Hang in there. Its hard on the whole family.

My friend's 8 y.o. was wetting his bed. It turned out to be a symptom of diabetes. It might be worth checking out..

If medical problems have been ruled out. Then you need to also look at your child's emotional state. Are they stressed and why are stressed. Could it be because they are having problems at school like they are being bullied. Or they have been molested by some one. Pretty much you need to find out what is going on in your child's personal life. Because a major trauma in a child can cause bed wetting.

Somebody mention that they get there child to wash the sheets. I don't agree with this. From a child's perspective it is seen as punishment . I understand that many parents are advised to get there children to wash the sheets how ever this advice is outdated and is just wrong.

I have a daughter who had bedwetting problems at night when she was 4 and we couldn't get her out of pullups. The Potty Pager worked great! After 1 week, she wasn't wetting the bed anymore. And she's been fine for years, but . . . now she's 7 and she's been wetting the bed every night for the last 2 weeks. What's going on? The Potty Pager isn't waking her up any more (it still works, I tested it). Does she have an infection? Is she just lazier now? Is there some major stress in her life? I've tried talking to her and she just says that she's too tired to get up. Any ideas?

What's going on? The Potty Pager isn't waking her up any more (it still works, I tested it). Does she have an infection? Is she just lazier now? Is there some major stress in her life? I've tried talking to her and she just says that she's too tired to get up. Any ideas?

I say you need to check above what you mention like is there some thing going on in her personal life things like that. You mention she might be lazy. I really cant see her doing it because she is lazy. Pretty much she would have to wake up and then wet the bed. If she is wetting the bed and isnt waking up then the signal isnt going to her brain to wake her up to go to the toilet.

You mention you couldnt get her out of pull ups. Perhaps you might want to consider if she has a fetish for wearing nappies.

My son is 7 1/2 yo. We've been using the Potty Pager for about 2 yrs now. Although it has NOT stopped the bedwetting it does wake him up immediately. Instead of having to change all of his bedding we now only have to deal with a quarter sized wet spot on his underwear. He wakes up, goes to the bathroom, changes his underwear and gets back in bed. All on his own too. I would love to find something that would completely stop the bedwetting but I'm not sure myself which route to go. I hope this is helpful to someone!

My 6 1/2 yr. old son wets the bed every night. He is such a heavy sleeper that a freight train could run through his room and I'm not sure it would wake him up! I'm looking into the Potty Pager. Does anyone have any advice or feedback for me on this product for heavy sleepers? My husband's brother is also a heavy sleeper and responded well to an alarm when he was around the same age...I'm not sure what to do. I don't want my son to get discouraged or feel badly if one of these alarms doesn't work for him. Thanks:-)

I would caution against the drugs. I had two sons on imiprimine. One son had no obvious side effects but he never had a dry morning - even after 2 months. My other son started having horrible side effects after the first month. Nausea, anxiety, panic attacks, malaise, sweats, etc.....He never had a dry morning either, but it didn't matter b/c we started weaning him off of the drugs after his side effects started. I would strongly suggest you proceed w/ caution if you decide to medicate.

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Thank you all. I bet by now none of you are reading this old post.

I will try doubling up the sheet protector/sheet idea. Maybe try briefs? We are still in diapers & I don't know if that pager would wake him...I'll have to check further into chiropractic/accupuncture. I now know we won't do the drugs.

Any new comments welcome!

I have a couple of things to mention that could help with bedwetting:

1) rule out all medical conditions (ie. diabetes, bladder infection, urinary tract infections)
2) take note of any food allergies.
3) limit fluids 2 hours before bed but let the child drink (water, not juice or soda) as much as he/she wants before that
4) make sure the child is not constipated. so give them plenty of fiber
5) make sure they're not emotionally stressed or bullied at school
6) if they wet the bed, encourage them to help you with clean up. this will give them a sense of responsibility
7) reassure the child that it's okay. NEVER punish.
8) make sure that the child uses the bathroom right before bed. make them pee twice.
9) keep in mind that medication will only work for a little while, but the child will most likely relapse once they're off the medication
10) lastly, a bedwetting alarm is one of the most effective treatments. i don't have any personal experience with the potty pager, but my sister bought a Malem alarm (https://bedwettingstore.com/malem-ultimate-bedwetting-alarm.html) that cured her son in a little over a month. the alarm uses both sound and vibration to wake the child up

Hopefully these tips help. Good luck!


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