She Doesn't Play with her Toys...Oy!
The art of playing. Is there a trick for kid's to self entertain? Monica has a question she'd like to ask of the mamas out there. She writes:
On the eve of Christmas eve, with a bunch of toys under the tree... I am reminded of something that troubles me about my kids. 4 yo girl and 2 yo boy most of the time don't actually play with their toys! It's crazy. I try to very carefully purchase toys that will inspire them to play creatively and have fun. Ella's bday is in early December and she received a bunch of fun toys... Equestrian Barbie ( I know... I know.. blond, perky, not able to walk with her proportions, etc., But, she had been talking about having to have it for several weeks) among some other fun things. Her play method is not to creatively play, but to bang the toys on other toys, make screeching animal noises and so on. Having her sit quietly playing with Barbie and her horsie is not happening. And, yes, we do art a lot and play dough.. all for limited amounts of time. It seems that we get one thing out and in a flash we need to play with or bang on something else.
A little background.. our girl is fiery, fearless, spazzy, loud, very sweet, extremely high energy. She thrives in an action-packed environment. Her preschool time is packed with activities that require her to wildy play as well as sit and focus on phonics and such. Per her teacher, she's appropriately wild, but can also focus when needed.
So, my issue is... when she is at home, why won't she play on her own? Why so crazy? She acts bored, in massive need of attention and seems just WILD and it makes me feel uneasy. I can't stand the noise and am irritated that unlike some of our friends kids, she can't sort of sit quietly and play ponies (even though she looooovves ponies). Admittedly, I get annoyed and kind of recoil, which I think feeds her fire.
This is a bad time to bring this up what with all the new toys/new fun about to be bestowed on all of our lucky happy little children. But with all the new toys/new fun, I am sitting here wondering, is/are she/they (boy is wayyy mellower) going to play or bang? I need to take a fresh look at playtime, re-think it so that it works for everyone. Any ideas? Also, do I need to suck it and deal with the constant noise?
Thanks uMamas for any thoughts and or ideas. Have a magical Christmas and thanks for all your sage thoughts and encouragement throughout the year!