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Seeking good books on child development

Mamas, do you have a go-to book on child development?  Capella writes:

The last coupla times I've been at the library I've tried to find some good books on child development.  It's been 15 years since I read Erikson's books while in college & I know there's been a lot of theorizing since then on what's going on in those developing brains. Through the library catalog & their reference desk I always end up at the parenting section.  I'm not looking for a general pamphlet level "what to expect from your 2-year old" kind of book.  I'm looking for something that will give me some theory, some insight, some opinions, something to think about while I'm spending my days doing childcare.

Does anyone have any good suggestions--titles, authors?


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Yes. Alfie Kohn's Unconditional Parenting. It's very eye-opening and refers to current research throughout the book.

Montessori from the Start by Paula Polk Lillard. There is theory and background on child development (infant to age 3) and appropriate application and activities to encourage child development.

My 3 yr old son's preschool teacher recommended the book "Taking Charge" by Joanne Nordling. I believe she is from portland, too.

We were having some questions surrounding how best to handle the terrific threes and the tantrums, defiance, and energy that comes with it and he recommended this book.

I liked that this book is for educators AND parents, and I liked the approach it took of respecting each child and not bringing ones own unresolved issues from childhood into your relationships with children. It has a lot of great insights.

I've always liked anything by Dr. Penelope Leach, a British psychologist who writes about "parenting from a child development perspective." From the comments it looks like you'll have lots of great reading to do!

Dr. Terry Brazelton.

The Scientist in the Crib: Minds, Brains, and How Children Learn. Alison Gopnik, et al. 1999.

I really enjoyed Louise Kaplan's Oneness and Separateness, which examines children to age 3, and Daniel Stern's Diary of A Baby, which goes to age 4. I've also found Lynne Murray & Liz Andrews's The Social Baby and Helen and Clive Dorman's The Social Toddler, both profusely illustrated with color photo sequences, tremendously interesting and engaging.

"what's Going on in There...How the brain and mind develop in the first five years of life" by Lise Eliot

Very readable, lots of inside info.

thanks so much! I read Penelope Leach in school & was sad to see the Mult co. Library only has 1 book by her! Brazelton is also someone I've come across frequently in my perusing.
thanks again!

The Emotional Life of the Toddler, by Alicia F. Lieberman is a great look into why little ones do what they do. I am reading it the second time for my second child who is so different than the first and still learning things that help me understand her.

Penelope Leach for general development, Alfie Kohn's Unconditional Parenting and John Gottman's Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child for toddler and beyond emotional/behavioral info. I also really liked What's Going on in There by Lise Elliot.

General Parenting Books:

By Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
-Liberated Parents, Liberated Children: Your Guide to a Happier Family
-Siblings Without Rivalry
-How to Talk so Kids will Listen and Listen so Kids will Talk

By Mary Sheedy Kurcinka
-Raising Your Spirited Child: A Guide for Parents Whose Child Is More
Intense, Sensitive, Perceptive, Persistent, and Energetic
-Kids, Parents, and Power Struggles
Mary Sheedy Kurcinka's web site: http://www.parentchildhelp.com/home.htm

By Harville Hendrix
Giving the Love That Heals

By Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D.
-Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life
-Raising Children Compassionately: Parenting the Nonviolent Communication Way
Many pamphlets and books on NVC at www.cnvc.org

by Inbal Kashtan
Parenting From Your Heart: Sharing the Gifts of Compassion, Connection, and

By Alfie Kohn
Unconditional Parenting : Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love
and Reason
Punished By Rewards
Beyond Discipline
No Contest
Alfie Kohn's Web Site: www.alfiekohn.org

By Lawrence Cohen
Playful Parenting
Lawrence Cohen's Web Site: http://www.playfulparenting.com/

By Barbara Coloroso
Kids are Worth it! Giving your Child the Gift of Inner Discipline
Barbara Coloroso's web site: http://www.kidsareworthit.com/

by Laura Davis, Janis Keyser
Becoming the Parent You Want To Be: A Sourcebook of Strategies for
the First Five Years

by Gordon Neufeld, Gabor Mate, MD
Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers

By Aletha Solter, PhD
Helping Young Children Flourish
Tears and Tantrums

By Patty Wipfler
many pamphlets on listening to children, anger, playlistening, tears and
tantrums, etc. etc.

Parenting From the Inside Out by Daniel Siegel

Culture and Parenting:

By Jean Liedloff
The Continuum Concept

By Meredith Small
Our Babies, Ourselves: How Biology and Culture Shape the Way We Parent

Brain Development/Child Development/Biological Basis for Attachment:

The Mind of Your Newborn Baby
by David B. Chamberlain

by Thomas Lewis, MD
General Theory of Love

Your Amazing Newborn
by Marshall H., M.D. Klaus

The Developing Mind: How Relationships and the Brain
Interact to Shape Who We Are by Daniel J. Siegel

Becoming Attached: First Relationships and How They
Shape Our Capacity to Love by Robert Karen Ph.D.

A Secure Base: Parent-Child Attachment and Healthy
Human Development by John Bowlby

Magical Child by Joseph Chilton Pearce

Touching by Ashley Montague

I love the book From Combat Zone to Love at Home: The Happy Face Token System by Debbie Preece

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