Tantrums & Meltdowns
Other urbanMamas have discussed before, could it be that three is more terrible that two? It very well could be the case. How has the number 3 fared for you? Mary emails:
My son turned 3 this past week, and while I know that it is completely normal for kids this age to throw tantrums when they don't get their way (we here 'I want', 'I want' a LOT), my husband and I are having much frustration with the complete crying screaming meltdowns that have been happening lately. I have been diligent about getting him snacks and meals at the appropriate times to ward off low blood sugar, but the tantrums continue to happen. We have made the rule that he cannot have his milk until after he eats his meal (whatever time of day, breakfast, lunch, or dinner) because he fills up on milk and then refuses to eat anything. Today before his normal lunch time, about 11am, he started in on the whining and crying asking for his milk (he had just had a snack of cheese at 10:15) so I fixed him his lunch early and told him that I would be happy to give him his milk after he ate his lunch. Complete sobbing meltdown. He wouldn't even sit on my lap and take a bite at all. Finally he asked for a nap, so I took he and his sippy of water up to bed. I feel awful about putting him down hungry, but I don't want to back down from our milk-after-eating rule because I know that is a slippery slope with the rules. He cried for a bit after I put him down but did go to sleep (his usual nap time is 12:30, give or take a bit). My typical mantra is 'this too shall pass' but I am quite frustrated!! Any advice??