I Don't Want to Go to School!
Every time we tell my son "it's time to get ready for school" his inevitable reply is "but I don't want to go to school!" This started over a year ago, and even though I kept telling myself it's just a phase, it hasn't stopped yet. Late last winter I was just starting the pregnancy with son #2 and despite my best efforts to contact pre-schools and get my elder son enrolled, the strong urge to procrastinate won out and I didn't lift a finger until November that year. This means we MAY be able to get him in to another pre-school by next fall (2007). That's a big MAY.
Currently he's only going to his care center 2 days a week at most. Sometimes if he's sick or there's a weather day, we haven't taken him in. Add to that the two and a half months he was home with me for my maternity leave, and maybe he thinks just whining about it will mean he can stay home instead (or better yet, go to Granny's house!). When he starts his denial I try to engage him in a conversation about what it is he doesn't like about school, so we can address what his issues are rather than just dismissing them. Usually he says he doesn't like when his "friends" at school hurt him (which doesn't necessarily mean physical hurt, but also emotional hurt). The scenarios he describes are not unusual interactions for 3 year olds, as far as I can tell, so I offer him some solutions for dealing with the situations that arise. I've discussed his concerns with the teachers and tried to probe them for solutions, but they have their own issues in trying to deal with the gaggle of kids in the classroom, so my little guy's needs just get lost in the mix. In my heart of hearts, though, I know that this is not the place for him to do his best growing and learning. But, until our number is up at any of our other choices, this place will have to do.
Am I the ONLY mama who totally missed the preschool boat? I mean I heard it was difficult but I think needing full time preschool 2-3 days a week and needing to get enrolled more than a year in advance really threw me for a loop. I think I really mucked this one up and I hope my little guy doesn't suffer for my mistake. Hopefully, I'll get a call that our dream situation has arrived, and then things will get better. I also can't help wondering if we actually make the change, he'll still not want to go to school because ultimately, he just wants to be with his family instead.