let's talk about [looks over her shoulder and whispers] sex?
Hey, we're all friends here, right? I got together today with a SE Portland mama who'd written a funny and sweet essay published in the New York Times' "Modern Love" column. Lainie doesn't exactly love the idea that her name might forever be connected with the most juicy part of our lives as parents, spouses, and human beings. But she was a great sport as we whispered through our discussion at Papaccino's.
I'm writing a piece for AOL on the ways moms get in the mood. For Lainie, it's those cheesy romantic movies. They allow her to take a step back from the chaos of life as a mother and remember why she fell in love with her own Prince Charming. For me, it can be a variety of things from a long shower in a clean bathroom to a night out with the mamas. All assuming, of course, the boys are sleeping when I get done.
I wondered if any of you might share with me ... and all of us ... what it is for you. Feel free to post anonymously or email me outside of the blog if you're a bit shy. I won't use your names in my piece (unless you'd rather ;) - I'm looking for more informal statistics to support my thesis.
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well, my rated-g turn-on is: domestic accomplishment/assistance. when my partner cleans, markets, cooks (!), does the laundry, i feel pretty steamy. to me, it says: "i love you so much that i want to share in keeping our home" or "let me help you with X". sunday evenings are great nights in our household. when we're done with all our chores for the weekend and retire up to bed, i'm usually feeling amorous, if my partner has been a good boy.
Posted by: olivia | April 25, 2006 at 10:08 AM
This is pretty funny...I've had a couple of conversations lately that have made me think about this, and then this post pops up... I guess I'm with Olivia--a clean house gives me one less chore to remember to do before I go to bed at night, and therefore a little more time and energy on my hands once I get there! My husband gets it, but doesnt really understand it...
On a recent night out with the girls, one of the girlfriends mentioned a "Passions" party that her girlfriend hosted last week. It's basically like a tupperware party, but for sex toys? Apparently 9 cute, hip, fun girls spent nearly $900 at this gig! I've never been to one, but it got us all thinking...are we missing out on something?
Posted by: NoPo Mama | April 25, 2006 at 02:11 PM
Thought I'd reopen this thread with a different twist. Lately I have had ZERO interest in getting it on, and I mean ZERO. I am due shortly for the Mirena to be replaced, and wonder if it's hormonal, but jeez. In the last 8 years since kids I have definitely been less in the mood than before, but I'm starting to feel bad for my guy and me. Especially since, well . . . I was checking him out today while he mowed the lawn shirtless, and he's hot. He bikes, and does martial arts, and is in really good shape, and there is no underlying resentment about anything getting in the way. He's also great in bed, when I can muster up the energy and inclination. But by the end of the day with two kids and I work from home . . I'd just rather take a long bath where I can have my own thoughts and then go to sleep, thanks.
Posted by: I'd rather sleep | August 17, 2008 at 07:13 PM