Baby Whispering, Nights 3 & 4: A Study in Contrasts
Baby Gennie and I have been exploring the plusses and minuses of the Baby Whispering routine for sleeping through the night. Here's the latest report.
So bad! Gennie made it to 2:30am and then was up every 40 minutes until 6:30am. I was on duty that night, and I began mentally fighting with myself, Tracy Hogg, and just everyone about this routine:
--What is the point of this, really? Parental convenience? Give it up!
--But Tracy Hogg says the baby will sleep better, that it's up to us to guide them.
--Western culture wants us to believe this, but it's just an excuse to fit babies into overbooked adult lives.
--But plenty of babies sleep through the night.
--Urbana Mamas says that's temperment.
--Noam Chomsky would say there's equal parts nature and nurture here.
--Yeah, and Dr. Phil would say "When does it end? Do you want her throwing the car keys on the night stand, saying Mom, I'm home!, and jumping in to bed with you?
--That's the classic pull-them-up-by-their-bootstraps neoconservative argument.
This inner dialogue wound round and round until I realized This is my brain on sleep deprivation. Not a good time to make any decisions. I remembered how, the night before, I heard Steve settling Gennie back down by playing the piano. I was infuriated! How in the world will piano music calm her? He's just overstimulating her! Wait, wait, we don't own a piano. I am not rational now. And then Danielle's comment on this blog came just in time: Stick with it, you're doing fine.
She went down at "bedtime", up at 10:15pm for a tank up, and slept until 5am. I've had to console her a couple times to get her to sleep until now (6am), but I'm so thrilled to have slept 6 hours in a row that I am the one who cannot settle back down! So I'm writing this instead. Urban Mamas, if every night could be this good--well, I'm not going to let myself even hope for it yet...